I also thought about all the things he didn’t say. He didn’t say that she was pretty. He didn’t say that she was too emotional. He didn’t say that she was a member of the second best gender or that she should learn how to keep a house. He didn’t say that he cannot wait until she gets older so that people could objectify her and take advantage of their power over her. He said she was smart.
I heard this week that somebody called Michelle Obama an “ape in heels.” This is not the first time something like this has been said and I’m fairly certain that it won’t be the last. I will readily admit that I have an undying love for Michelle Obama and that love probably motivated me to sit and write about this, but know that I would feel the same way about any similarly egregious remarks.
We all get labeled at some point in our lives. We’re labeled as the smart girl, or the jock, or the bitch at work, or the Donald Trump supporter. True, some of them be deserved; these labels might reflect something about our personalities but they’re probably not comprehensive. There are definitely things about us as … Continue reading Labels Out: Stripping Back the Limits we Put on God
One of my favorite things about my relationship with my wife is the amount of time we spend cooking in the kitchen. Hey hey! That’s what she said!! But, no, this is not a euphemism. We literally spend a lot of time cooking food in our kitchen. At this point in our lives juggling her … Continue reading The Time I Dropped the Egg Timer
But since it falls unto my lot That I should rise and you should not I’ll gently rise and I’ll softly call Good night and joy be with you all // the parting glass There are millions of beautiful people from every walk of life. Many of them we know. Their calling cards might be … Continue reading The Parting Glass
I’m not a war connoisseur or a history buff but I watch a ridiculous quantity of war documentaries on Netflix. The way that these stories have been crafted are really interesting to me. You couldn’t write more compelling fiction. There’s pain and heartbreak, death and triumph of the human spirit. There are heroes and villains. … Continue reading Freedom & Overwhelming Force
Marriage is a loaded word. You’d think that after thousands of years of marriages, we would have figured it out. If you were able to step outside of time and look in at humanity, you would think that marriage is something brand new that we are still trying to work out the details about. We … Continue reading Worth the Effort: 4 Lessons About Marriage that the Fairy Tales Forgot
I used to think that I had to do everything right. In fact, I thought the goal was to get more and more things right until eventually everything was right. Nothing was wrong. Wrong was bad. Wrong was so bad, that it meant that it put my life in danger. Wrong meant that there was … Continue reading Part Saint & Part Sinner
People sometimes ask me if I believe in God. In the pause between the end of the question and the beginning of my response, a million things happen in my head and throughout my body.
As children, we are incredibly dependent on the love and care of other humans. Even though as adults we are impressively capable, the universe has crafted us in such a way that, as children, we can only survive with the intentional support of a caregiver. On some levels, this is great. It’s helped us develop … Continue reading The Blind Leading the Blind