It was a promising premise. Our social networks were going to be such a great way to stay in touch with people from every nook and cranny of our lives. We could stay in contact with them all, effortlessly and all in one place. Even when it seemed weird that they were sharing photos of how well their food was plated at the Mexican restaurant down the street, we at least loved the transparency and the feeling of being connected. We craved it. We added friends to our lists like they were BOGO microwave dinners at the grocery store.
As a rule, we generally think of ourselves as nice people. We think of ourselves as being as being above average on friendliness and politeness. By all practical accounts people should like us. Our perspectives are rational and make sense to us; most people see the world from our point of view.
From a faith perspective, I grew up following the Jesus tradition and, in that pursuit, I learned about something called The Golden Rule. You know it: Do to others what you would want them to do to you. And, to be fair, it’s not like Jesus had the market cornered on this – He was just paraphrasing something that came from Judaism hundreds of years before, and they had likely picked it from some other group. As it turns out, there are versions of this idea that surface in just about every major religious practice throughout history, from Confucianism to Native American Spirituality. There might not be a more universal truth.
I heard this week that somebody called Michelle Obama an “ape in heels.” This is not the first time something like this has been said and I’m fairly certain that it won’t be the last. I will readily admit that I have an undying love for Michelle Obama and that love probably motivated me to sit and write about this, but know that I would feel the same way about any similarly egregious remarks.
You have been my proving ground. We sparred like gladiators, merciless and unrelenting, matching each other blow for blow. I was certain that you were my greatest foe and that I would feel no remorse for finishing you when I finally had the opportunity.
A few weeks ago, I was driving home through my neighborhood when I got startled by a deer on a neighbor’s front porch. I only saw it from the corner of my eye, but my heart immediately started to race. I could feel the adrenaline coursing through my veins. Reflexively, I whipped my head around … Continue reading An Animal Invented the iPhone and I Got Scared by a Plastic Deer
some thoughts on self-awareness When I’ve had to be someone else’s version of me, I’ve not been happy. We hear things like this all the time: that we’re living in someone else’s shadow, that someone is living vicariously through us, that we want to finally become independent, to grow to flourish. There exists a pressure … Continue reading boundaries
Perhaps it’s just the current state of my emotions talking, but I’m more and more convinced that the human condition is marked by a need for and/or a desire for meaningful intimacy. We’ve perverted this idea in such a way that the sexual connotations are usually the first to our minds – and while that’s … Continue reading intimacy
It’s 9:44pm on Saturday, May 21, 2011. I’m still here. Planes are not falling out of the sky. There was no trumpet blast. Jesus isn’t riding on a white stallion or waiting in the air to resurrect the dead according to the timezone their buried in. Judgement day was, yet again, a dud. Matters of … Continue reading camping out
Seth Godin says that Lynchpins deliver. The people that are indispensable to organizations, companies, and others have due dates that they meet, materials that they send, ideas that come to fruition. They have hundreds of ideas and a couple are even viable. I want so badly to be like this. I have the idea thing … Continue reading deliver